"I think what some, but not all, are forgetting here is that there is a bottom line to Sgt. Stewart's problem. She PURPOSELY, and very intentionally gave the Army the metaphorical finger when she told Tahie that she wanted to, and succeeded in, "come out & make as big a public scene as possible." That's the point when you made a concience decision to violate DADT.
Sgt. Stewart, you knew when you signed up that you were gay, and you knew when you signed up what the policy was. Moreover, you knew that the army's policy overrode your personal feelings on the matter just as many laws do. I don't understand why in the world I have to go 55 on an interstate in some parts of this state, but no matter. I speed, I pay the fine, and no one is going to change that for me. Sadly, the same is true for Sgt. Stewart and others like her.
If you want the policy changed, your looking to the wrong people. You're going to have to take to the highest court possible, but you won't. You just want the benefits, and it is very likely that when you boil it all down, you deserve them, but you're not out to change policy for your fellow homesexual soldiers. You're simply out to get the benefits. If you want to look like a hero, then act like one. Stand your ground and be prepared to take it to the highest court no matter the cost. You'll lose, of course, but do it to prove you really ARE just standing up for the downtrodden gays out there fighting for our freedom.
In addition, you are lying to the world when you tell them that an investigation into your harassment would mean an investigation into your sexual orientation. Investigating whether a person or persons have harassed you have NOTHING to do with whether their comments are true or not. If someone at my place of work kept making inappropriate sexual comments that made me uncomfortable and the investigator asked if the comments were true, well, now come on! Even an intelligent woman like yourself MUST know that THAT, in and of itself, is just as inappropriate and completely irrelevant. So, your excuse to come out because you simply couldn't have it investigated without being investigated yourself is ludicrous!
My personal belief about gays?..When I get to heaven and I'm standing in line on Judgement Day, God isn't going to call me to the front of the line to ask my opinion about anyone's life or lifestyle. So, I don't care what you do. It doesn't affect me. What I do care about, and can tell you that any court of law is going to care about, is that you broke a federal law that you had adequate notice of and fully understood and swore to uphold when you joined......BOTTOM LINE!"