"Sending suicides on a guilt trip.
What kind of psychiatrist would pretend to heal a suicide by sending that person on a guilt trip? Despite promises to provide “trauma informed” care and treatment, you can find them in the mental facilities of the Oklahoma Department of Mental Health and Substance Abuse Services. Like the Tulsa Center for Behavioral Health.
Some people seem to think that suicide is always an easy way out, or a “plea to get attention”, a self-absorbed act by people who blame everyone else for their problems. I suspect that those people, in their ignorance, have never been affected by physical and emotional abuse as children. Or have never been stripped of all pride and self-confidence and made to feel as if they don’t really deserve to live or belong in their own families.
There’s nothing easy about suicide. You have to go through hell to get there. And if you go to a private place to do it and fail, who are you going to tell? It would only invite more abuse. Maybe even some horrible psychiatric treatment that involves burning or cutting out a part of your self and brain. On the approval of an adult who has ever been eager to say, “I’ll fix you!” If you thought getting the belt and the red-faced, spitting, screaming, paranoid rages were bad, what could be better about something even more extreme. You could go four years after hiding an attempt and never say a word about it to anyone else. Until the next time.
What moron would think that suicidal children always blame it all on everyone else? When they have always been told the their abuse is instigated and justified by their own sins and faults, to the point of destroying all pride, self-confidence, hope for the future and full ability to function effectively in society. It’s not unheard that such children never have a permanent relationship or found a family, because they believe so strongly in their own failings. What kind of sadistic psychiatrist or counselor would then say, “Well if you’ve had all these problems with other people, what’s the common denominator? It’s you!” You need look no farther than TCBH.
Some people think it’s impossible for such children to spend the rest of their lives trying to figure out what’s wrong with them, and how to fix it. Or that it’s their own fault if they can’t do it in some socially approved time period. “You should just get over it and get on with your life!” Another reason to hide it.
Like the psychiatrist or counselor or nurse who has probably never been there, but can’t stand to be contradicted by anyone who’s been dealing with and surviving this kind of pain for decades. They have a whip they use on anyone who disagrees with them. It’s, “You don’t have any insight!”, or “You’re just not self aware!” The last refuge of a quack, someone who cares less about doing further damage, than for his or her own ego.
Or how about the COPES agents who construct “Third Party Statements” for the Police, using only those things you might do or say that can be presented as damning, in order to justify a commitment at TCBH. Or using unproven and uninvestigated malicious hearsay, for which they never even bother to collect any sworn statement, which might later be challenged in the cross-examinations that the Mental Health Court won’t allow. So that TCBH can demand that you “accept responsibility for being here”.
As Gollum in Lord of the Rings said, “Always tries to be helpful.” Never mind if that kind of self-righteous stupidity might make one lose hope and consider suicide just to escape the barrage of degrading, humiliating, dehumanizing demonization. Well, at least you’re no stranger to that kind of “adult” behavior, the kind that religious zealots often inflict on their own children. You’d think that it might be kinder and more honest for their parents (or “licensed mental health professionals”) just to kill and eat them.