"Rooting the old folks out of their homes
A long time ago, when I was a lot younger and better looking, I used to work at the National Space Technology Laboratory (NSTL) in Mississippi. Old Senator John Stennis had porked it through Congress to provide a place for NASA to test its space shuttle and huge rocket engines. It was so large, it had its own ZIP code; NTSL MS 39529. It had other major laboratories, like the National Atmospheric and Oceanography Administration Data Buoy Office and the U.S. Naval Oceanographic Laboratory, as well as their supporting contractors. About 13,500 acres in all, and around all that, 125,000 acres of "acoustic buffer zone".
I remember someone telling me that when it was built, they moved everyone out of their homes in the buffer zone, and tore down any structure that had walls. It hit the old people the worst. The Government uprooted people who had been living in their homes most or all of their lives. Some of the old people filled with so much sorrow, they died. You might think they could have found a compromise. After all, it is was really going to be so loud that no one could live there, how could anyone have worked at the laboratories?
I had nothing to say in forcing Mom out of her home. No one listens to me, including her. Plenty of old people in the retirement apartments where I once lived had visiting care. Some has oxygen bottles, or power chairs, or had come there for hospice. Dad died at home. Other than my sibling's insistence, there was no real reason why Mom couldn't have lived well to the end of her days in her own home.
Now I wonder about the ultimate effect on her. My sister-in-law tells me that Mom isn't eating and drinking enough. And she used to brag about how many glasses of water a day she drank. Aunt Gladys died in a nursing home with terribly painful arthritis. In spite of the pain, she hung on until Uncle Charlie died, of pneumonia I think. Then she stopped drinking, and went in a few days. Dad went the same way, by prior arrangement, when Parkinson's deprived him of the ability to swallow.
Deciding what is best for someone else, particularly when they don't really agree, doesn't always produce the intended effects. Mom has spoken about how she doesn't want to live to be a hundred. She could easily decide simply to stop trying and slip away."