Here’s How to Get Back on the Dating Scene With Confidence

Dipping your toes back in the water and then diving headlong into the dating scene can be a beautiful, enlivening experience. What might initially...
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Dipping your toes back in the water and then diving headlong into the dating scene can be a beautiful, enlivening experience. What might initially start out as a nerve-wracking process where you’re just trying to get comfortable with being slightly uncomfortable can give way to life-changing connections.

Now more than ever, we’re all being tested as we muddle through the disorienting, terrifying era of the Coronavirus pandemic. Being able to navigate this strange time with a partner by your side, or at the very least some meaningful dates can work wonders when it comes to brightening your mood. Let’s take a look at some of the surefire ways to get you back on the dating scene with confidence.

Make sure your lingerie game is on point.

The importance of having some lucky lingerie that puts a pep in your step, and fills you with confidence and self-love cannot be expressed enough. Should you find yourself fortunate enough to end up in a scenario where you and your date have progressed to the steamy sequence of stripping down, you’ll want to make sure you’ve got some stunning lingerie. We’re talking about the kind of bra, corset, or unbelievable underwear that you wake up in the morning wanting to show off.

Stun ’em with your smell.

We’ve all crossed paths with that one human being that rocks the fragrance that we just can’t get enough of. They could be a perfect stranger strolling by on a busy sidewalk, and suddenly your nostrils are overwhelmed by the kind smell that brightens your mood because it’s just so good.

If you’re looking for a lead on a great fragrance, companies along the lines of Ellen Tracy perfume offer vibrant options like the Ellen Tracy for Her. These scents will make you feel confident and assertive, but don’t completely overwhelm the senses. It’s all about striking that perfect balance. When you find your ideal fragrance, you tap into a new well of inner confidence. Knowing that you smell good has a tendency to make the rest of the environment around you feel a little lighter. Plus, you want to leave a lasting impression with that date, and preferably a positive one!

Take baby steps.

Taking baby steps is a huge tip! Nobody likes feeling like they’re rushing into something that they’re just not ready for yet. Getting back into the dating scene and really hitting your stride can seem like a daunting undertaking at first.

As is helpful with most anything that initially seems overwhelming in life, it’s all about breaking it down into smaller steps. Maybe start with fine-tuning your flirting game on one of the many fun dating apps. It’s on those apps that you’re able to experiment with what you’re truly comfortable with, and ultimately make sure that your date is looking for the same thing as you.

Don’t be worried about showing your vulnerable side.

This one kind of ties into the previous point about taking baby steps. Once you’ve reached a place where you feel comfortable expressing the deeper layers of yourself, it’s a remarkably meaningful experience to show your date your vulnerable side. Plus, you’ll find that doing this is an act of self-love, and with self-love comes the kind of unshakable confidence that is magnetic to the people you meet.

See if any friends will set you up.

Don’t underestimate your friends’ ability to match you up with someone they know is a good fit for you, because they know you better than most. Plus, this could end up sparing you the extra time and emotional energy that goes into finding your next date. You’ll be able to walk into that date knowing your friend already vetted the date for you. That can make for quite the confidence booster.

Keith Bell is the Creative Director for Urban Tulsa. He has been with UT since 2018, and manages the creative department designing every issue from concept to web production.